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What a Woman Needs – 20 Non-Negotiables

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Written by Chiara Mazzucco

A woman wears a thousand hats – mother, lover, friend, colleague, sister, daughter – and it’s while wearing those hats that she needs to be strong, indestructible, loving, caring, bold and more. Society needs her to be and behave a certain way. What society fails to realize, however, is that she, too, has needs. Such needs, of course, differ based on the individual and while many included in the list below may be up for argument, I want to share with you 20 of my own non-negotiables. 20 Things I’ve realized I cannot live without after being deprived of them on and off for about 12 months. 20 Things that are part of a much longer list of what a woman needs – of what this woman needs.

What a Woman Needs – 20 Non-Negotiables

1. Passion, Drive, Goals

It’s amazing how, no matter how much money she’s making, apart from some well deserved mini vacations, she’s still living paycheck to paycheck when she’s not doing what she loves. What a woman needs is to have a passion, set goals and have the drive to achieve them. The sense of self fulfillment that flows through a woman’s veins when she has something else to live for is reason enough to get out of bed, even when nothing else makes sense. When boyfriends break your heart, bosses are pricks, the weather sucks, and your neighbors bang lounder than great apes, there is something incredible about having control over your own life. Having goals is bigger than love, it’s about you and having the power and a sense of purpose. A woman needs a sense of purpose.

2. Friendship and Genuine Laughter

If you’re lucky enough to have friends, don’t take them for granted. And I’m not talking about ‘friends’, I’m talking about real friends. The kind of friends who know you inside and out, who accept you, support you, and show up at your door with a movie and wine when you’re having a shit day. What a woman needs is the kind of friend they can laugh with, uncontrollably; who they can act silly with, scream and sing out of cars with. Friends who will be there on the bright happy days, the dark days, and the days covered in absolute shit.

3. Confidence

So many factors play into a woman having confidence, but it doesn’t make it any less important or any less attainable. A woman needs to believe in herself because when life gets dark and no one else is around, she needs to be strong enough to pick herself up. It doesn’t matter how strong of a support system she has around her, no “You can do it!” will ever be loud enough if “I can’t do it” is ever spoken, even in a whisper. What a woman needs is to believe in herself, her abilities and her existence. Get it anywhere you can and watch your world get a little bit easier with a little more confidence on your side. Boost your self esteem.

4. An ear {A self-less, objective perspective}

As much beauty, strength and support your close family and friends can bring to the table, what a woman needs is to have an objective option available. Two reasons make this a non-negotiable: 1) You need someone who isn’t afraid to hurt your feelings and whose honest words won’t cut you quite as deep as they would if they were coming from someone closer to you and 2) Whether you realize it or not, it can be a lot easier being honest to a stranger. So for the sake of honesty, get a second opinion on whatever you’re going through in life. (That’s why bartenders, therapists and delayed flights exist – open up)

Chiara Mazzucco

Chiara Mazzucco

Founder and CEO at The Indie Chicks, Inc.
Founder and CEO of Indie Chicks, Inc.
Published author of The 9 Mirages of Love, web and graphic designer, and single mom to three cats and a baby.
Chiara Mazzucco