Perks of Being Single at the Holidays

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There are a ton of women out there who get depressed at the holidays because they don’t have a significant other. Suddenly all the pitfalls of being single are magnified and they begin to panic about being ‘unlovable’, then scamper to find a date to office parties and family gatherings. Oh girl, what are you doing? The holidays aren’t the time to start your desperate search for love. Besides, you’re forgetting about all the perks of being single at the holidays. Yes, you heard me right– there are perks of being single at the holidays.

Party Time Perks

Sure, it’s always nice to go with somebody to an office party or get together, but there are definitely perks of being single at the holidays. It’s great to be paired up if you’re looking for a promised drink filler and kiss at midnight but there are plenty of ticks on the pro side of going stag to these events.

Men Everywhere

Unless you are going to a specific couples evening there is a great chance that there are going to be good looking, if not interesting, single men there. If you scramble for a random date, one you probably don’t like all that much, then you limit your ability to get to know those potential matches. Get your mingle on, girl. Plus those random last minute dates don’t typically end well.

There are always one or two single chicks at every party and they are the girls that all the available men flock to. That chick can be you if you’re bold enough to head to a party solo.


We’ve all taken a last minute date to a work party with an open bar and ended up having to carry our date to the car, or worse, off your hot, married, female boss. It’s not their work function so they don’t have to stay sober enough to not embarrass themselves, and they don’t really care if they embarrass you since you’re not really dating. Can you say, ‘recipe for disaster’?

If they’re not drunk and grinding on your office’s 79 year old secretary then chances are they’re going to be glued to your side because they know nobody. You’ll have to navigate conversation in awkward directions just to get them involved, “Oh Tina, remember that vacation you took to England a while back, well Chris is Scottish. Isn’t that crazy?” Um, what? One of the greatest perks of being single at the holidays is being able to enjoy yourself at these gatherings and not worry about whether or not your date is comfortable.

Gift Giving

Yeah, it’s nice to get some jewelry (if that’s your thing) or a specially thought out gift from your man, but it’s not the end of the world if you don’t have a boyfriend, fiancé, or husband at the holidays, in fact, it’s kind of awesome.

Saving Money

Men are all about the newest toys and ‘toys’ these days are pricey. I always spend more money on gifts for men than I do on gifts for women. They are less about the sentiment behind a gift and more about making sure the gift giving is of equal monetary standing. At least that has been my experience. So a perk of being single at the holidays is that you can either bank more money or splurge on something nice for yourself after you’ve done all your shopping for others.

Guilt Free

When I was in relationships at the holidays I often held, or hid, my excitement over certain gifts. No, I’m not squealing over my Hermione wand. Nope, I didn’t tear up at getting a new journal from a family member who didn’t always support my writing. I’ve had boyfriends tell me I was silly for asking for certain ‘frivolous’ things before. Excuse me, but I work damn hard to buy the things I want, which means that anything I get at the holidays is a bonus and yes, I want frivolous things sometimes. So, enjoy the perk of being single at the holidays and don’t worry about asking for Love Actually, a new throw blanket, and chocolates. Enjoy, girl!

Being in love around the holidays is great but life is all about how you spin it. You’re single, that’s a fact. Rushing to remedy your solo status, out of some misguided sense of holiday obligation, is just silly. Look at the perks of being single at the holidays and I bet you’ll have a freaking blast.

Julie Zantopoulos

Julie Zantopoulos

Julie is Vice President and Editor-in-Chief of The Indie Chicks. She's working on publishing her first book, a collection of short stories, and writing a young adult novel series. Other loves include whiskey, the Flyers, and anything LOTR, Harry Potter, or Young Adult Lit. Don't be shy about following her on Instagram or emailing her to discuss contributing to The Indie Chicks.

  1. Not being single in general, I’m lucky enough to not feel the pressure of gift giving. We usually decide on a co-gift or do something later, since the focus is really to get stuff for our families. I also have a home office so our office parties are a bit unconventional 😉

    I think for single girls the Christmas/New Years/Valentine’s Day 1/4 of the year is pretty hard. Sometimes you just want to snuggle up with cocoa and stare at the tree. Sometimes you want to have someone to kiss at midnight. And sometimes you don’t want to be at home watching Jennifer Garner bash a heart piñata on Valentine’s Day instead of actually participating IN Valentine’s Day.

    I think the point of this article is that yes, those feelings are valid and sometimes it really sucks, but if you make a last ditch effort just to not be alone, you’ll be more unsatisfied than if you were.

    1. I think I may be a freak exception. haha. I never get bummed at Valentine’s Day or the holidays at being single. I have SO much love and fulfillment in my life…plus i’ve been single for what feels like forever, so I just don’t miss that feeling. I’m not saying it wouldn’t be nice but it’s not something I see as glaringly lacking or upsetting.

      It’s not hard for me, as a single girl, and it’s not a woe is me…nobody to kiss feeling. I think there are a lot of women like me who need to hear that it’s okay to be happy and be single. Who need to hear that you don’t have to scramble for a date because you think you should by societal standards. THEN there are those ladies who are feeling horribly lonely and doing rash things to get that last minute date which is never a situation you want to be in. I hope either group benefits from this and that the coupled ladies agree…it can be just as fun single. :)

      1. Well when you’re single you don’t have to cater to someone else’s family either. Which is REALLY nice lol. You can just spend as much (or as little) time with your own family sans guilt or irritation at having to go from place to place :)

        Not that I’m irritated or anything lol but yeah it’s a HUGE pain in the ass!

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