In a world where men and women are busy and social time is limited to computer interactions, text messaging, and emails the popularity of online dating is skyrocketing. Gone are the days where there is a stigma associated with meeting a partner online but there is still one thing I always worry about; safety. My father would have my ass if he thought I wasn’t being safe when I was meeting up with virtual strangers. I think most of us are in tune with our ‘gut’ and trust our instincts but there are still some basics I want to make sure each of you lovely ladies know about online dating safety.
Before you even consider meeting this guy in person please take into consideration the following tips and safety guidelines.
Online Dating Safety Rules
First and Foremost ALWAYS Trust Your Gut
I said it before already but I can’t stress this enough. If something about the guy seems off pay attention! If you are talking with him through emails and messengers and he gives clues to being possessive, jealous, or quick to anger it is probably best to not plan an actual date with him. If before you meet he’s already questioning why you are still active on the dating site, RUN and run fast.
Zip It Up
A lot of women are quick to share every last detail right off the bat. We do this under a guise of being an “open book” or being upfront and not playing games. Ladies, please, slow your roll. One of the first rules of online dating safety is: Do NOT share personal information too early. Keep your last name, exact location, and other identifying information a secret until you have assessed how your gut feels about him.
Organizing Your Profile
I’ve heard it suggested that you should create an email account just for your online dating profiles and while I didn’t do this when I was utilizing online dating I see the reasoning behind it. How many of us have blogs, Facebook pages, and more all with information about us linked to our emails? It’s pretty easy to search out where email is linked to on the internet so this is something to consider. When it comes to online dating safety having a bit of a firewall between yourself and your dating world might be nice.
Price Is What You Pay. Value Is What You Get
Please remember that you will get what you pay for, or not in this case. Free online dating sites have been toted by guys I know as “fuck finders” and nothing else. If guys are serious about finding somebody they care about and want to spend some time with they will pay for the service. I’m not saying that you can’t find people looking for long term relationships on a free site but you have to weed through a lot more non-serious profiles to find them.
The flirting and conversation is going great. Suddenly you are staying up late just to chat, you get butterflies when his name pops up in your messenger, and you can’t stop smiling. It’s time to meet up and you are over the moon excited. AWESOME! Be excited, you deserve it, but be safe!