Everyone has an inherent desire to fit in, be accepted, and to be a part of a social circle that feels “right” to them. It’s human nature to want to be close to other human beings, to have company on this journey of ours, and that’s just fine. Company, friends, and companionship are all healthy attachments in life. What happens though when you constantly find yourself on the side of the majority instead of standing alone, strong in your convictions?
Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. ~ Mark Twain
Today The Indie Chick teams is going to break down this quote and give you some tips for living a life that’s unique and true to you.
My entire life, I thought the side f the majority was where I needed to be and I’ll admit that up until High School, it actually made sense. I was still not very good at crossing that line, though.
Then I grew up. I watched all these ‘other’ people become brilliant, innovative and completely successful. That’s when it all clicked. That ‘majority’ you so fondly admire and aspire to be apart of is what we now know as ‘the masses’. You know the 9-5ers who hate their lives, settled for the mediocre, and live their days in monotonous routine? That’s them.
My interpretation of Twain’s quote is pretty simple: if you find yourself on the side of the majority, fondly admiring those ‘who never fit in’ and now get to live out their wildest dreams, it’s time to take off the suit and cross back into the unknown.
We have this weird misconception that the bigger the group doing something, the more it’s ‘right’. But I am much happier admiring, idolizing, and following the minority now as an adult, as I was the majority when I was younger.
Lesson? Step out. Join the few that are bold, fearless and determined, and go explore with them. The less the explorers, the more treasure to be found.
Oh, if only I’d read this quote when I was younger. I constantly went with what everyone else was doing in my teens and even into my 20’s. I was so damn needy for acceptance that I thought that it was okay to find yourself on the side of the majority. If all those people were doing it then it must be the “cool” or the right thing to be doing. The road less traveled looked spooky and scary and I much preferred being a part of a group even I didn’t enjoy doing everything they did.
Eventually in everyone’s life they find themselves at a cross roads; continue to find yourself on the side of the majority or do what feels right for themselves. It’s not always easy to branch out from your peer group, societal expectations, or parent’s expectations but it is when you do that you can find yourself and be the truest version of yourself.
It isn’t until you do your own thing, march to your own drummer as it were, that you can become truly comfortable in your own skin, mind, and decisions. You may not lead a conventional life, obey what society things you should do, or make sense to those around you, but you’ll make sense to you and that matters.
I secretly lived most of my adult life feeling like an outcast. I thought I had to keep pace with everyone. College, career, marriage, house, two and a half kids. I was depressed for a nearly a decade because I couldn’t keep up with the collective dream.
Little did I know that I had been blessed with the opportunity to create my own world. Imagine living in such a way that you don’t have to abide by the rules. You’re not stuck in the nine-to-five grind most people become zombies abiding by. There’s nothing wrong with living like everyone else if that’s what makes you happy, but if you’re outwardly “successful” and you still don’t feel fulfilled, it’s time for an evaluation.
They say there’s safety in numbers but if being a part of the collective whole is no longer satisfying to you, you owe it to yourself and those around you to live your life freely. Find that career niche that makes your skin tingle with excitement. If it doesn’t exist, create it. Look around you. One person who thought outside of the box has made everything you see possible, and you are not different from them. Create your life, Darling, because if you don’t, you’ll get lost as another one of those who put their dreams on the backburner because it’s safe to fade into the collective whole.
Do you find yourself on the side of the majority and wonder how you ended up there? Take a minute to sit back, form your own opinions, fuel your own dreams, and dig into the truest sense of self. Life is so much more fun when you’re a rebellious little badass.
What are you going to do today to ensure you don’t find yourself on the side of the majority?