How to Get Your Boyfriend to Chase You Again

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Chiara Mazzucco

CEO, Editor-in-Chief at The Indie Chicks, Inc
Chiara got her start in the blogosphere by dishing out reality slaps on her dating and relationship blog. The brutal honesty that became her signature tone earned her the badass reputation she needed to get The Indie Chicks magazine up and running. She is also a web designer and author of The 9 Mirages of Love. Driven, stubborn, and wildly ambitious, she won’t stop until she is the perfect, self-empowered role model for all of her readers.

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A reader emailed me asking my thoughts on an article she had found online on getting your man to chase you again. I told her never to read anything like that again. There is so much shit on the internet telling you what you want to hearto get you to buy the productthat in reality is setting you up for utter disaster. Let’s tackle this topic appropriately, shall we? Here’s how to get your boyfriend to chase you again.

The Shit You’re Being Told

You’re in the dumps because your man doesn’t leave roses on your doorstep anymore, the trance he used to fall into every time he looked at you over dinner is long gone, and his body no longer quivers in anticipation when you undress. The truth is, he’s fallen victim to the comforts of routine; now that he has you, he doesn’t have to work for you anymore. So you feel like a beaten up old rag as you watch him gawk at the unattainable blonde across the room. You look online for support and you find the following: “He’s gotten lazy because you’ve let him. If you don’t keep him on his toes, he’s going to feed into his evolutionary instinct and go hunt somewhere else. You can TRAIN him! Set some ground rules early in the game. It’s time to transform yourself into the person you KNOW he’ll chase for the rest of his life!” The following list of tips was taken directly for the article sent to me (sourced in the above link)

  • Keep him out of his comfort zone by making rules early on, even if he doesn’t like them
  • Make sure he realizes just how desirable you are to others
  • Never become lazy yourself
  • Don’t be at his beck and call
  • Ensure you retain your friends, interests, vacations and activities to a degree
  • Never allow him to think you are reliant on him
  • Keep some of your finances separate
  • Don’t always return his phone calls
  • Don’t allow him to know what you are thinking all the time
  • Socialize without him occasionally
  • All domestic duties are shared, no excuses
  • Threaten to dump him occasionally
  • Use all your womanly powers that you employ so well in the early stages of dating
  • Change your mind about things occasionally and keep him guessing
  • Ensure you retain male friends you had before
  • Find his weak spots and use them when need be
  • Do not run around after him
  • Get him to do the laundry
  • Go on vacation with your friends

For fuck’s sake. Are you kidding me? Make rules, even if he doesn’t like them? Find his weak spots and use them when need be? Threaten to dump him occasionally? It’s like a list of really bad rules to a game. Here’s the thing: this kind of shit will sound so appealing to you in a time of desperation. You’ll find it right when you feel your relationship is slipping through your fingers and you’ll ignore every bit of common sense pointing you in the opposite direction. You will cave, and you will become a slave to a superficial 12 step program. If you think relationships are as simple as ‘get him to do the laundry’ you aren’t worthy of even being on my website. Sign off and good luck.

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  • Veronica

    I swear, Chiara, I fell in love with your and your gorgeous perspective with every piece I read from you. THIS kind of advice is the kind women should be following. Not that outdated, petty bullshit for women who weren’t taught better. Bravo, sister! Tell ‘em!

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      Thanks, Roni

  • strawberryp

    THANK YOU for posting this article. I’m sure I’ve read the article you mention a hundred times over, every time thinking, “seriously?”. It’s so difficult to accept that there are girls who will actually treat guys this way and think that leads to a happy, long-term, committed relationship (because that’s what they’re going for, right?). The one thing my boyfriend always says to me is that he loves that I’m motivated and passionate, which is what I WANT him to like about me! I don’t want him to feel obligated to love me because I guilt or trick him into it, I’ll save that for marriage ;)
    sidenote: KUDOS on the “real men are the only ones worth being with” plug. HELL YEAH!

  • Karen

    So I have a boyfriend.. we have been together for three years. He’s changed a lot. No matter how much I tell him, he’s not the same, and so on.. It makes no difference. Not sure what to do.. I’m always the one who wants to see him most, if he has a better offer, he’ll put it before me.. He’s quit trying, that’s the truth. He tries but not much, it hurts, not sure what to do. His excuse is his job, seems like making money is now his number one priority.. :(

    • Brittany

      That is exactly what is happening to me! But the difference is that I am still in high school. But really, I love my boyfriend with everything I’ve got right now. And it used to feel like he does too! But yesterday it was different. We went to a basketball game at our school. He wanted to sit in the student section, but I hate the student section. I usually sit on the other side of the gym. He came over and sat by me for a little bit. And when I asked him if he wanted to sit by my the rest if the game, he said no. He said the student section is fun. He continued to give me reasons on why he didn’t want to sit by me. It hurt. Really bad! I eventually just told him to go. So he did, without hesitation. It wasn’t always this way though! Idk what happened.

    • Moonlite

      High school is different in a lot of cases. in high school your maturity level isn’t as high as it would as someone who is maybe say in their early twenties late thirties. I know how you feel Karen me n my boyfriend have been together since I started college and lately he always saying im tired from work he comes home he sleeps eat n sleeps. I give him crap about working so much but applaud your man. because if he working hard hes trying to do that for you. If u realize he working to hard cook him diner and draw a bath and lite some candles works every time. As for you Brittany as a girl who is about to graduate college, Don’t lament to hard there is plenty of real men in college. Don’t expect your high school boyfriend to not participate in the school activities have fun while y’all can becuz shit gets real after senior year trust and believe me.

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      So much can change in 3 years, Karen. How are things now? Are you still together? Sometimes it’s best to let things go. You’ll feel so much relief from not having to constantly try all of the time.

  • Pooky

    But what if all these bad things happened while you are in a long distance relationship marriage? You can’t just ignore him and make him wants you when you are not even there physically.

    Please help!!!

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      Pooky, long distance relationships are hard in it of themselves! I know this comment is late (I missed responding to these comments, for some reason). But how are things going now?

  • Jen

    You can’t nag a guy to be your bf. I use to be needy then I learned the hard way

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      I think most of us learned the hard way, Jen! I know I did.

      • Kkfyh

        I’m with an amazing guy who has admitted that he doesn’t try as hard anymore to romance me but he still makes some effort. I’m not proud of it but I’ve vocalized the fact that u feel taken for granted and that I don’t get why some girls get romance while I have to plead and beg for it. I don’t want to nag him or be overly emotional but I feel neglected. What should I do?

  • WeezaFish

    I didn’t think I could love you more Chiara but … it is possible! I sit here, as always, feeling like my mind’s just been refreshed with a new perspective and I LOVE it. As will Hubs in this respect, because he’ll surely benefit. SO glad you dissed ‘Train your man’ advice too. As you rightly point out, who wants to be with a man who can be trained FFS? P.S. I’ve been offline for frikkin aaaaages, but I do have some posts up my sleeve for you *grins hopefully*

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      Where have you disappeared off to, Weeza?! We miss you terribly here at The IC! How is everything!?

      • WeezaFish

        We’re so well, how are you doing? Me and my love of remote farm houses, we’re going to have to have an antennae erected in the yard to get signal or something :) Missing all you girls too it’s been too long xx

  • Terri

    I feel like a moron posting on here about my “love issues” like im a 12 year old girl, but im seriously stumped about what to do with my partner, I love him more than anything, and im always there to listen and support him no matter what, (hes going through a custody battle with a rather nasty ex) but when it comes to my needs it just seems he isn’t interested… he has the shortest temper and is very dominant… I haven’t left him because he can be a truly amazing person and he says he loves me every day, it just seems words mean nothing if he isn’t there to back them up… he forgets about promises and makes plans that never happen, he gets angry over small things, he ignores my needs, and hes only there when its convenient to him… he used to call me every day just to see how my day was and now he doesn’t even like me calling because he hates talking on the phone apparently… understandable, but im just so used to the person he was, and the expectations I have of him that this “new” version is a slap in the face… as I said, I love him and I want to make it work but I just don’t know how to go about it anymore… he just doesn’t want to talk but he doesn’t want this relationship over either… ARGHHH I’M SO FUCKING FRISTRATED!

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      “Because he CAN truly be an amazing person and he SAYS he loves me everyday” – I think that’s enough to say, hey, red flag. You’re frustrated because a lot of this has nothing to do with you.

      It seems to me like he has a lot going on.

      But that’s still just an excuse.
      Because the truth is, if he really wanted it to work, he’d do anything to keep it alive, no matter what, even if it meant saying, “Listen. I know everything else is taking me far from us right now but I’m still in this, I love you, and I need you to be patient with me while I go through this.” That alone would switch the sitch.

      How are things going now, Terri?

      • Terri W

        I completely forgot about this forum lol…things were going better… then things got a little more difficult in his life again and I feel like im the punching bag again… he doesn’t cope with difficulties very well and I feel like im the one being strong for him, when I need him to be strong for me… and youre completely right, if he wanted this he would make MORE of an effort, I know this deep down I really do. ive been hurt before so I know the red flags pretty well, but he is just soooooooo different from the normal person I just cant read him as well as id like. the truth is, as I said I do love him and I want it to work and I know its never going to change, and IF I want change then the only option is walking away, but I haven’t because my head and heart thinks it will work and I’m so stubborn, I CANT give up so easily… so that’s my fault and I have to deal with it and people are going to think im stupid… it will either go great, or it will blow up in my face in which case many people will say I told you so. In the long run, no matter which way it goes, I wont regret the time with him because I love him. at the moment I just want my heart to butt out and let my head do the rational thinking and make the right choice. thanks for your reply Chiara, it does make a difference to have an outside opinion, I feel a little more sane now. x

        • Chiara Mazzucco

          I think the important thing is to be aware of what is going on – so long as you prepare for battle, screw anyone who calls you stupid. Listen, you’re not the first to fight for love but there is definitely a difference between that and being delusional. As long as you’re aware of how bad things are and how much you’re gunnin to get hurt, then you’re a big girl who can make her own decisions!

          My outside opinion is always here. Feel free to reach out to it whenever you need it! :) I’m not going anywhere.

          • Terri W

            So I just ended it, in the easiest way possible, we just had a huge argument about facebook… like are you serious?!?! long story short (major red flags in here, I know) he hates me having facebook, although im almost positive he has it. so I de-activated it to save argument, I can text my friends right? -.-… anyway, he logs in to check up whenever he feels like to “make sure” I don’t know his passwords, and I try to explain that its wrong, how would he like it if I did it and its an invasion of privacy, I have nothing to hide but don’t be sneaky about “snooping through my crap” just ask. then he accuses me of cheating blah blah this is how the argument goes every time. I have never cheated on that man nor would I ever, not my idea of a relationship. ANYWAY, we had the same argument this afternoon, his temper got the better of him and I just lost it… like a lightbulb sorta came on. I explained to him why this relationship isn’t working anymore, the way ive been feeling and that my needs aren’t being met… I tried fighting for us, I tried being there but how much can one person deal with… It hasn’t sunk in that its over, and I don’t WANT it to be over but I don’t see any other option. I don’t want him to change himself as a person, I just wanted a little more appreciation and to be shown that I am loved and to be respected… So there’s the update… weirdly yet I feel reallllyyyy bad for dumping this shit on you, your a stranger yet I don’t feel like I can discuss this with anyone else… :/ you must get drained from hearing everyones issues eh? lol thank-you for taking the time to reply.

  • Lilly

    Where was this article when I needed a slap in the face for losing my head when I met my perfect guy? Thanks in advance for the next time I meet Mr.OMG-is-he-real?! <3

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      Exactly! Now you have it under your belt :)

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  • Patrick

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  • Ms M.

    My boyfriend of 3 years started getting lazy like this. Hinting or complaining at times didn’t work, one time he actually said “yeah but back then I was trying to get you and now I’ve got you”. Ugh, not for long with that attitude buddy.
    Eventually I sat down and wrote him a letter explaining what had changed and how that made me feel. Including that I wasn’t sure I was now being taken for granted or whether I fell in love with the person he was pretending to be while trying to “get” me
    I give him a we. Of no contact to think it over an come u with a response. We sat down and talked it over for three hours and came out a lot stronger. Sometimes he’ll still need a nudge and a reminder but for the most part it is so much better now.

  • Amanda Rivera

    I’m not really a fan of the relationship advice out there that convinces you of “being manipulative”, “playing games”, or “following a set of rules/tips” to keep a relationship. It ends up being more exhausting than its worth and the guy falls for an inauthentic version of yourself. Relationships are more than just chasing each other and getting the other person to be “obsessed with you.”

    There are some guys (and women) out there who life off of playing cat and mouse. But there are plenty of men and women out there that want something stable and are concious enough to work at the relationship with you.

    Thank you for writing this post, it needed to be pointed out. Just wish we could have heard more of your opinion and how you would handle the situation, personally.

  • Henry Nancy

    my boyfriend of two years let me for another girl because i accuse him of seen another girl and since then i have been trying to get him but he refuse to come back to me,he was not responding to my call or email and he even unfriend me in facebook and he told me that he is done with me.i was searching on the internet for help and i saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so i decided to give it a try and i contacted him and i explain my problems to him and he cast a love spell for me and guarantee me of 2days that my ex will come back to me and to my greatest surprise the third day a great miracle fell on me and my ex come back to me on the two days and he beg me for forgivenes, i will continue to publish his name because he is my Savior and we are about to get married.if you need him to help you Email

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  • The Hook

    You, my talented, wise and lovely friend, are THE MAN!
    That is all.

  • gell

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  • Lauryn

    What are you teaching girls here ? Wtf ?!

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      Did you read it?

      • Chrystal Rose

        I’m guessing no…

        • Holly

          Wow all im seeing is ” here is my testimon”
          If you have to cast a spell to get a man to love you well its not actually love and um ehat happens if another woman has a spell cast on the same man which one works??? What toyal BS oh and notice the bad english they are probably middle eastern tryin to scam money for terroris activities

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  • Ashley McDonald

    Oooh, I really like the first point. Making rules is so assertive and badass.

  • Jessy

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  • Lilly

    So I am dating a guy two years younger than me at first it wasn’t a problem we wouldn’t even discuss the age difference . All of a sudden he is always bringing up how he is too young And he wants to do this and that with the boys . I don’t mind at all as long as it’s clean fun , but I am no longer a priority we go to the gym together during the week . He says that counts as spending time together and he never wants to take me out anymore he wants to spend his whole weekend with the guys . An every time I bring this up to him he says I am fussing . We have been together for a year now and he still won’t take me home saying he isn’t ready . I really love him but something has to give p.s I am 23 his 21

    • Chrystal Rose

      So now he is of drinking age and his priorities have changed. You are still young. If you aren’t being treated the way you deserve is loving him enough?

    • Seriously not worth it

      dont call him. dont expect anything from him. go live your life. guys are assholes. as soon as they feel like you are in the pocket you are not worth anymore. but they will be the one who are crying once they loose you. I guarantee you they will cry. happen to me in different occasions

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  • Bree

    Ok so me and my boyfriend always fight and when we do he would not contact me for 5-6 days and ill keep calling and keep messaging either way cause i get scared if i loose him & when he calls me after those couple of days i straight away answer and we be normal again , ive noticed that he is not scared of loosing me what should i do in this situation ? I cant keep living like this it kills me that i always put the effort in and if i dont he wont at all and he always thinks he is in the right when he is not , and he always blames his acttions on me i think i should end it ?

    • Chrystal Rose

      Do you think you should end it? Are you okay with being treated this way forever?

      It seems as though he knows you’ll come right back to him so he just does whatever he wants. I have a feeling you’d be a lot happier without him. Good luck!

  • Some girl

    I never understood how girls could just follow these rules without even struggling or thinking for a second if this could harm her partner in any way. What shatters my mind is that some guys, especially the guy I had feelings for, are very attracted to girls like these. I do not want to hurt my partner like this. I don’t care if it could make me seem more attractive, I’m not going to be a cold hearted bitch.

    • Chrystal Rose

      Some women are so desperate to make him love her again that they’ll try anything.

  • Rayre

    I don’t know if I should treat my boyfriend in that way.. thats really hard.. I really love him and I want him to stay with me.. at the same time I think I should give him my best.. so he can feel comfortable with me.. which makes him want to stay with me all the time.. I make my rules.. but not out of his comfort zone.. because when I think about it I think that I will treat him the same way I’d love him to treat me.. and if I got him out of his comfort zone.. he’ll think that hes better off without me.. I think that if I really want this relationship I think that I should make him happy.. we should make happy times together and make beautiful memories so we can look back and say yeah hes perfect for me we’re happy together as he’ll say the same think about me. “cant be happy with any other girl more than this girl”.. what do you think?? is that right ?? please answer me.. I need your answer please..

  • mariann

    I have a boyfriend been together for 7 month. At first he was all upfront about wanting me and being lucky to have me. I found out that he has been talking to an ex on the side too. she says they were married for 6 years and not together anymore. He denies that. However, I dont think I believe him. To be honest I have trust problems with him. Started with this one lie. Have not seem him lie to me about anything major. But he does lie of minor things. I think he also is talking to someone else on the phone, because everytime I called to chat he is always on the run and doesn’t stay with me on the phone more than 30 min. I told him indirectly that I need more attention since we both work on different shifts. The phone conversation needs to be picked up a bit more. He says ok but never makes any change. I dont want come as needy, but I want to know what should I do to make him see how lucky he is to have me and be more into me than others, even on the phone?

  • IceMan

    You idiots are so fucking DUMB. All these tips are taken from the real “How to make a GIRL chase you”. You can’t do this to guys because guys use logic and their brains doesn’t process information like the brain of a girl. In a girls brain the limbic emotions often take over, dominate and win over logical and rational thoughts. That’s why girls often say “I followed my heart instead of my brain :(“, you can use mental tricks to attract girls and to by-pass their logic and reach their feelings. That’s why women are always predictable and are so easy to play with (emotions). If you want to make a guy chase you all you have to do is not being overly available, desperate and know your limits, respect your self and be smart. By the way you girls are turned off by guys chasing you and being clingy so stop constantly wanting things you can’t have (guys chasing you) when you know you’ll get turned off and then just friend zone him or some shit.

    • Chiara Mazzucco

      Dude, chill out.

  • Kaz

    So how can I get him to pay intrest in me when he’d rarther play the long game with one of his freinds. He nevef says he loves me anymore and he keeps his distance from me when his female freind he’d rarther be with ( he admited he fanceys them and flirts with her infront of my face). Should I just give in and let him have the lady who is much younger, thiner and more atteactive ( in my minds eye) compared to my self or should I try to keep him intrestdd in me?.

  • mia

    i have a bf and he is very nice but i dnt knw what mentality men have, he says that he will marry when he will be established but i am already 25 and worried as in our country there is an age to get married. he loves me but he is like those boys who dnt say much, whenever i ask him abut marriage he dnt ans and simply say tht after he’ll get established. i fight with him and say alot of bad words but afterwards i repent. sometimes i feel depressed and lonely.

  • Jade

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2yrs and lately, believe it not, he has basically put a ‘six inch rule’ in place were I can’t even touch him. I have to ask permission to cuddle him as he mite be hot, or ‘busy’ watching TV. He isn’t interested in sex any more and will only have sex about 4 times a month and he thinks there is something wrong with me wanting it more. He also thinks I watch him when we are at home together and that I don’t give him enough ‘space’, even though I work until 10pm 3 or 4 times a week. He tells me he loves me and that, but one minute he’s bollocking me for saying or doing something and then a minute later he’s joking about it towards and I feel I can’t say anything back cus it feels like a test. I got told my grandad had six months to live and I was crying my eyes out, so he gave me a hug that felt as if he was forcing it and then told me to cook dinner to take my mind off it while he watch tv.


      Dump him. Yes guys fall into a routine after dating for an extended period of time but that’s just abuse, neglect specifically.

  • Malia Sotofuentes-Pratt

    This is a game a lot of chicks play and it works for those who want to continue that lifestyle. Yet, seriously, someone who wants a genuine relationship will yes, lay down rules from the get go, but all that, answering your phone sometimes, using threats to dump an guy…this sh*t is silly and childish. Not adult at all. Sounds like someone should read “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.” You wouldn’t want a man doing that to you. My boyfriend and I have our issues like everyone else in a relationship, yet, I don’t tolerate things like that and he doesn’t do things like that. We “keep it 100″ with each other and are too old to be playing b.s. games like so. Btw, it’s “beckoned call”, not “beck and call.” SMH…

    • Tina

      LOL You’re wrong. It’s “beck and call”. SMH@ people who act smart and think they can dole out advice.. Also, I don’t trust anyone who recommends a sexist book like Act like a Lady Think like a Man. It has some solid points, but “ladies” can think just as well if not better than men.. The title is incredibly ignorant. Screw Steve Harvey and his 3XXL suit…

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  • Garrett TheBruce

    Oh god. Thank you for this article. There are so many occasions where I’m standing in the grocery checkout and reading the topics/headlines of some of these magazines with complete disdain. Every once in a while I’ll pick one up to read it because I’m just too curious. I usually put them down with disappointment or disgust. It’s refreshing to see an alternate/refreshing article about some of these issues.

    Seriously… dialogue is probably the most important thing of all. I know it’s cliche… but the brain gets turned on just as much as other parts. In my opinion the best sex/physical connection comes after a great conversation. And if you have a hard time talking with your partner it’s going to be difficult carrying on any type of meaningful/long term relationship. That being said… it’s also important to recognize timing. Maybe that “conversation” you want to have with your partner should be put on pause.

  • Bobafettbarbie

    The whole threatening to dump him occasionally doesn’t work with real men. He’ll take you seriously and be like okay she doesn’t really want to be with me And in turn consider dumping you!

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    • Michelle

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