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Are Crazy Women Forcing Men to Marry?

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Julie Zantopoulos

When not acting as Vice President and Senior Editor at The Indie Chicks, Jewels is a writer at heart and most likely writing for her own website According to Jewels or working on her first novel.In her free time she's loves heading to concerts, taking road trips, reading, and doing anything crafty. Don't hesitate to reach out...she loves chatting with our readers.

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Recently I was talking to a guy friend of mine who is about to get married and, like always, I wasn’t pulling any punches. I flat out asked him why he was getting married if there were fundamental issues in his relationship that already had him looking outside his relationship. Luckily he is used to my candid speech and didn’t get offended by the question. His answer didn’t shock me, though I wish it had.

I’m Tired of Crazy Women

“I’m tired of crazy women. Every girl I dated prior to my fiancé was insane.” He admitted. “The thought of dating again horrifies me.”

I sat with that a second and then finally spoke. “So you are getting married to a woman you know you will cheat on because you don’t want to date crazy women again?”

“Yup.” Came his clear and concise answer.

I couldn’t leave it there though, my dating blogger self had to know more. If I had a guy willing to talk about crazy women and the affect they had on dating…I was digging for more.

“What makes you call them crazy women?” I asked with genuine interest.

“Jewels, you don’t realize how different you are from the average woman out there dating right now. They are needy as shit. If I don’t answer a text or phone call immediately they freak out on me. You know that doesn’t work with me. Everything had to move so fast with them.” My friend is an emergency personnel worker, so when calls come in he has to respond.

Okay, so he gets a call and can’t respond to his phone right away. I get that totally, so why wouldn’t another woman? This is simple; you know what he does for a living so why would this surprise you? I’m shaking my head on the other side of the phone and still in wonder at the whole situation.

I ended that part of the conversation with a very simple statement that I hope hit home. “You know that mistresses are straight up psycho…right?”

“Not all.” He said with a knowing laugh and that was the end of that topic.

The sad part of this conversation is that he’s not the first or only man that I know who has done the exact same thing. I’ve had men admit to me that they got married only because they were tired of crazy women, dating, and drama. They love their wife, don’t get me wrong, but they have no problem telling me that there are fatal flaws in the relationship. Not just flaws; ones that have them looking elsewhere for either emotional or physical comfort. All of this is still preferable to dealing with crazy women and dating again.

I’ve written before about the issues I take with women who behave ridiculously. I’ve addressed the crazy women, stalkers, and over texters who just don’t know when to call it quits. I will never understand why they think behaving like a rabbit boiling psycho will endear them to the object of their affection. More over if the roles were reversed they’d be calling the cops terrified that they were being stalked by a crazy guy. What makes them think they are exempt from the same laws the govern a person’s right to be left alone and not harassed?

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  • http://www.theindiechicks.com Chiara

    “Stop actin so cray cray”… hahahah You already know how I feel about this. I did an entire vlog about crazy bitches..

    “Ask yourself: Do I want to be the one he keeps around or the one he laughs about? ”

    This is SOOOO the perfect phrase. Great post, Jewels.

  • http://myfittblog.com Veronica

    Oh, my Doll! This article is a must-read for dating women. Crazy, needy, clingy is NEVER, EVER cute. More women need to realize this.

    I can’t imagine being pushed into the position of feeling so cornered by craziness that the first candidate for marriage only needs to be “not crazy.” Sigh. Ladies, stop being cray cray belongs on a t-shirt!

    • http://www.accordingtojewels.com Jewels

      We should make that shirt…I’d wear it. Honestly, ladies have lost their minds. Some of the stories I hear these men share horrify me. I am ashamed of my own gender sometimes.

  • strawberryp

    The irony? The reason b*tches be so cray cray is because they are (typically) ring-hungry nut jobs anyway. From their perspectives, I’m sure they see this as a win. But as always, you guys are putting out the word to encourage young women to aim for strength, confidence, and independence, rather than strollers, cocktails, and idiocy.

    • http://www.accordingtojewels.com Jewels

      Ring crazy to the point of blindness doesn’t do anyone a bit of good. Staying with somebody who is wrong with you to stay on some “track” you had in your mind or getting married knowing he isn’t fully invested. Ugh…makes my skin crawl.

  • http://www.fantasydatinggame.com Suzanne

    AMEN! Why is it so hard for some women to just be cool?!

  • http://www.forherbyher.com Elle @ ForHerByHer

    Agreed! “Stop being cray-crazy” – love that :)

    The way to stop this behaviour, other than raising the bar, is to value yourself and your time. There is no need to sit around waiting and begging for a guy’s attention. Most of us would lose interest in a clingy guy the second he starts texting every 10 minutes.

    When you value yourself, others value you.

    • http://www.accordingtojewels.com Jewels

      Love that advice. Valuing yourself above a guy, your time and your dignity, definitely help avoid that cray cray behavior. Thanks so much for reading and commenting.