Is that wrong? Does that make me a hypocrite? Meh. Maybe it does, but I’m okay with that. At least in this case I am okay with having a double standard. The case that I’m referring to is in regards to the treatment of women.
I’ve stated repeatedly on my blog and my radio show that I’m “old school.” However, that doesn’t mean that I’m stuck in some quicksand of Neanderthal thinking. It just means that I take values that have been passed down from decade-to-decade and I apply them to my modern-day world. I especially do this when it comes to women.
How? I’m glad that you asked! I treat all women as intellectual equals and I promote the fact that they are just as capable, if not sometimes more capable, than a man when it comes to many things. But, I also know how to appreciate and encourage her femininity.
Some women frown against even something as simple as having doors opened for them, but I think those types are very rare. I think that a woman can be a leader and/or a role model, yet still not come off as something less than feminine.
Fellas, you can have the best of both worlds in a woman: a lady can be your equal, yet still feel like the gem that she is by you pulling out a chair or opening a door for her. Chivalry isn’t dead, but it’s on life support. It’s up to us to revive it. It needs to be taught to boys so they retain that line of thinking once they become adults. It also needs to be taught to girls so that they may set their expectations high and accept nothing less once they mature.
- Don’t think that just because a woman wants to be paid equally to a man for doing the same work that she doesn’t want a door held open. That’s just stupid. That’s just an excuse to not be a gentleman. If she’s capable of producing the same results, then it’s only logical that she receives the same pay.
- Don’t think that just because a woman is a single mother that she’s used to “wearing the pants” in her household. She probably would love to have a man to compliment her and to be “the other half.” Her independence should not be mistaken for being a man hater. It doesn’t mean she wants to be alone. It just means that she’s a survivor and is capable of doing it alone.
- Don’t think that just because a woman may be the type to have dating options that she’s some sort of slut. Dating multiple men doesn’t equal being promiscuous. A woman with options is only promoting competition. After all, most of us men tend to appreciate something after we’ve worked hard for it, right? As long as she’s honest in telling you that she’s weighing her options, then don’t try and slut shame her.
There are so many guys who look for every opportunity to not do something for a woman. These younger generations of boys thrive on “thirsty” women willing to do whatever it takes to keep from being lonely. These guys will even go as far as to allow a woman to take care of them. Really, dude?
You label yourself as a “man” when you can’t even take care of yourself? Now, I’m not referring to someone who maybe has health concerns or is really just down on his luck with today’s economy. I’m referring to the ones who don’t even try. Like the car-less guy who drops his woman off at work only to return home and play video games. Or the guy who eats up all of her groceries with no intentions of replacing them. Maybe it could be the guy who uses his woman sexually without any thoughts of attempting to satisfy her. Sometimes, these guys are one in the same. SMH.
Treating a woman equally doesn’t make you less of a man. It makes you more of a man. It also goes a long way towards her treating you as a one, too. We guys are to respect women as equals in many, many facets of life. But, don’t ever forget that sometimes, you have to know how to make a woman feel like a woman. Protect her. Encourage her. Satisfy her. Love her.