I recently had the pleasure of taking friend to an adult novelties store (sex shop) for her very first time and it turned out to be quite the adventure for us. As someone who has never had a problem walking into that type of establishment, I was honored to get to escort her on her virgin voyage into the realm of a true-to-life adult superstore.
Now, I should preface this with the fact that it was she who brought up the need for some new play things, thanks in part to her newly-found favorite series, Fifty Shades of Grey. These books had her fired up in the bedroom and thanks to that new found libido, she was open to trying out a few of things mentioned in the racy novels. She had a few things from an in-home party she had attended a while back but was in the market for a few new things.
Of course I jumped on the chance to take a trip to my favorite toy shop! She was a little reserved about the idea at first, but after a few reassurances that it would be quick and painless, she grabbed her purse and off we went. I have never had the man throw me the keys to his Lexus so quick in my life. He was literally cheering us on and volunteered to watch the kids so we could “take our time” with our shopping trip. How nice of him! I’m sure it had nothing to do with the fact that he knew I, too, would be bringing home a few new things.
So off we went, quickly reaching our destination. We laughed when we noticed that ours was the only car in the parking lot, quite an odd occurrence for such a place on a Friday night. She looked a little nervous as she took a deep breath, opened the door, and said “Let’s do this!” In we went.
This is your typical adult store set up, at least as typical as I have seen. You had a section close to the front that was your run of the mill bachelor/bachelorette party type items and more humorous things. Then we wandered through the lingerie and “dancewear” section admiring the Lucite stripper heels and crotchless get ups we encountered along the way. But we were on a mission: she was after a specific item that had piqued her interest in her reading and that meant a trip to the far back of the store.
Now, for those of you that haven’t wandered to the “back of the store” before, it is not for the faint of heart. It can be a bit jarring to see so many phallic-like items in so many different shapes, colors, and sizes in one place! Not to mention the large assortment of restraining systems, nipple clamps, and a few things that even a seasoned shopper such as myself has to read the back of the box to figure out what it’s for.
My advice: Keep an open mind! For every person that thinks “I would never use that!” there is another person that sees the same thing and thinks “That’s exactly what I was looking for!” To each her own, right? When it comes to pleasure, every person is unique in what turns them on and gets them off, no judgment here!
We were in the midst of a fit of laughter after finding one of the more “exotic” items when my friend looked up and saw someone she knew. It figures! She was a little embarrassed at first as this person was a co-worker as opposed to a close friend, but after a minute of awkward small talk we were all looking over the selection and making recommendations for each other. Nothing bonds like sex toys and lingerie!
We continued through the store, stopping to laugh at the celebrity look-a-like blow up dolls and discuss the finer points of porno movie titles, then continued to the counter to make our purchases.
My friend found exactly what she was looking for, a few things she didn’t even know she was looking for, and I picked up a few things as well. There is no such thing as too many toys for the collection in my opinion. We made our purchases and walked out with smiles on our faces and little bit of giggling going on as we joked about what we need to make sure to pick up on our next visit to the sex shop.
Exploring your sexuality, whether it’s with erotic novels, sex toys, or a combination of both is nothing to be embarrassed about or feel ashamed of. It is just another step you are taking towards finding out what turns you on and gives you the most enjoyable sex life possible and that my friends, is a very good thing!