I Haven’t Showered (and Other Problems of the Overly-Ambitious)

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Chiara Mazzucco

CEO, Editor-in-Chief at The Indie Chicks, Inc
Chiara got her start in the blogosphere by dishing out reality slaps on her dating and relationship blog. The brutal honesty that became her signature tone earned her the badass reputation she needed to get The Indie Chicks magazine up and running. She is also a web designer and author of The 9 Mirages of Love. Driven, stubborn, and wildly ambitious, she won’t stop until she is the perfect, self-empowered role model for all of her readers.

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(Or, How Being Overly-Ambitious Resembles Being an Unmotivated Loser)

It goes without saying that drive and determination are two of the sexiest qualities an individual can have. But what if I told you they can also be a disgusting way of inflicting self harm? And what if I told you, an overly-ambitious character and an unmotivated loser have more in common than you’d like to believe?  Below is a list of common issues the two characters have in common (and how to fix them).

I Haven’t Showered

I could technically shower but…

Unmotivated Loser: What’s the point? It’s not like I have anywhere to be. And the guys can’t smell me over the XBOX.

Overly-ambitious: What’s the point? It’s not like I have anywhere to be. And the guys can’t smell me over the XBOX. Besides, that would take up a big chunk of the time I have to finish this project. I need to get it done ASAP.

So both characters are locked away in a room. One is stuffing shit into his mouth while he dominates a game of Halo (see next problem) and the other is so deep into his work that hygiene could not fall lower on his list of priorities.


Taking 20 minutes for a power shower will be more beneficial than skipping it to get more work done. The grosser you get, the more the dirt will slow you down. (Think of it like a heavy blanket of stones, growing heavier every day you don’t bathe). No one says you have to do a full blown groom-and-masturbate kind of shower. You just have to wash yourself, put your hair in a towel (if you really have a deadline to meet) and save time by stretching in the shower while the soap washes over you.

There is really no excuse.

My Eating Habits Have Gone to Shit

When my mind focuses on what I’m doing, I…

Unmotivated:  Eat a bunch of shit. Anything from a bag or easily delivered to my door gets stuffed down my throat (along side a nice two liter of Coke to get me through the all-nighter) at the rhythm of whatever is on television.

Overly-ambitious: Eat a bunch of shit … Or nothing at all. Time passes so quickly, I forget to eat.

Neither dude makes eating well (or at all) a priority. You say that food is supposed to ‘fuel’ me? One relies on empty calories, and the other relies on drive to get them through the day. Neither of which is considered real nutrition.


Prepare your meals when you wake up or better yet, the night before. As tempting as it is to jump straight into work, food really is fuel. Skipping meals or stuffing your face with chips and salsa all afternoon isn’t going to help your brain work at full capacity. (And that is what an overly ambitious individual wants, is it not?) Make the sacrifice of another 20 minutes in the morning or at night to help reach your daily goal safely. Leave your food in the kitchen, prepared and packaged, and set your timer for “real meal” times.

No excuses.

I Have No Friends

When it comes to Friday night, my phone never rings because…

Unmotivated: No one is there to call me. And I won’t go out of my way to make them because if they don’t like me for me, they’re not meant to be real friends anyway.

Overly-Ambitious: No one is there to call me. I’ve alienated anyone I have ever called “friend”. I’ll have more time for friends when I get this shit done and achieve success.

No matter what the reason is that these two characters have no one calling them on Friday night, the fact remains: They have no one calling them on Friday night.


Without friends, who do you plan on sharing your success with anyway? Laughing and taking the night off to drink and enjoy good company is (obviously) scientifically proven to lift your mood. What the overly-ambitious fear, however, is that if they don’t work on the weekends, like the rest of the world, what’s supposed to set them apart? How are they going to be guaranteed to reach the finish line faster … if they’re going at the same pace as everyone else? The solution to this problem may be obvious: stop ditching your friends, go out and make new friends, and force friend time into your calendar. The REAL solution to this problem, however, is to realize that success lies in what you do with your time, not how much of it you devote.

There is no excuse for alienating yourself. Friends are important and they are the strength that carries you through to tomorrow.

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  • http://the-dame.com The Dame Intl

    Hahaha! These are all so spot on for me, I spend upwards of ten hours a day with my head in my laptop working, working working. But I also know that the time I take to shower actually gives me time to gain fresh ideas. But I suffer from not eating and not pleasuring myself because Im too tired from staring at my laptop for long hours and lets not talk about the aching body from sitting and typing and reading for hours on end!

    Great post!

  • Courtney

    I love this article. I can relate to this. There are times when I study for a test or reading , I tend to forget to eat. I agree. There should be no excuses. Thank you for posting this article! :)

    • Danielle Kelley

      I love that someone else understands that forgetting to eat HAPPENS! :)

  • http://www.accordingtojewels.com Jewels

    I usually make time to shower but I won’t lie, there are a LOT of times that I realize I haven’t eaten, have missed a party, skipped the gym (again), or have stayed in my pajamas most of the weekend just to write. It’s not okay and I’m doing what I can to make sure I make time for myself.

  • http://justmewith.com Roxanne

    Random, never-see-each-other-again-hook-up. I’m sorry, I must have drifted off . . . what was I gonna say?

  • Danielle Kelley

    Guilty. Guilty. Guilty. I forget to eat and shower… quite often actually. Being a student, working a full-time job and a badass internship distract me from simple day to day tasks.

  • http://drakesdoomsdaycorner.blogspot.co.uk/ Drake Sigar

    I have long since replaced my friends with dragon statuettes.