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There are three types of women that no one likes: a bitter bitch, a psycho girlfriend and a crazy cat lady. While the crazy cat lady is still up in the air, we’ve already dealt with being a psycho girlfriend, which means the time has come to deal with the bitter bitches. Cause no one likes a bitter bitch.
Being bitter is funny, isn’t it? You get to make rude remarks, justify coming close to alcohol poisoning, and best of all, you get to dive into a lifestyle and stick to it, because guess what? You’re bitter and everyone needs to be okay with it, especially cause they’re laughing at you and egging you on.
But while you’re having fun posting your Rotten eCards on Facebook and making loud, obscene remarks about the ex who left you for your secretary, the people around you are slightly burned out and are likely putting on a face of support they’re getting tired of wearing.
So how about you pull your shit together and stop being a bitter bitch?
Take the following 7 steps now:
1. Realize it takes time
First step to fixing the bitterness is realizing that healing takes time. No one wakes up the next day singing, “Rise and shine! I love me some butterflies and unicorns!” You have to look at your tomorrow’s are realistic, no matter how optimistic your approach is. Because the secret here is acknowledging that it’s going to be a rough ride, and yet still embarking on the journey.
2. Find out exactly what you’re bitter about
This is easier in certain situations than it is in others. But it’s never impossible. Did your ex screw you over? If so, beyond the obvious heartache and pain that caused, is there something deeper that’s attacking your soul? Maybe it was with a friend of yours, or perhaps he fucked you over after you have just taken him back from his last screw up. Was it betrayal?
Did your office rival get the position you were killing yourself over? Was it anything more than just that promotion? Maybe you knew of foul play or that she barely lifted a finger to get that presentation finished. Was it jealousy?
Get as detailed as possible and try to narrow it down an actual emotion.
3. Elaborate on that emotion
Sometimes the root of the bitterness is really not that obvious but reaching the resulting emotion can give oodles of clues as to why your pain has turned into bitter-bitchiness. Emotions have opposite emotions. So when you’re able to focus on the core of the bitterness, you’re able to see the opposing emotion as the goal and end all cure to your angry little heart.
I know this process is a pain in the ass and the last thing your bitter heart wants to be doing is rehashing these details, but trust me when I say, you have to in order to move the hell on.